Feeling flattered because your boss offered you a higher salary when you turned in your resignation letter? Don’t let your ego cloud your judgment.

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It was a moment in my career that I will never forget.

I had accepted a new job at a different company, and when I went into my boss’s office to quit, resignation letter in hand, he offered me a higher salary if I would stay.

Even if you think this would never happen to you, it’s best to prepare in advance so you’ll feel comfortable with your response, which should be: “No, thank you.”

Surprised that I’m telling you to decline your manager’s counter offer? Here’s why.

If you analyzed the reasons why you want to change jobs, then you already identified all the issues that were within your manager’s or your ability to control. And you already worked through every possible way of fixing those issues.

So what does that leave you? With the issues that weren’t fixable: the deal-breakers. These were the reasons you went out and found a new job that better fits your career requirements or goals. So why would you suddenly want to stay in your job just because your boss offered you more money?

If you previously couldn’t get a raise from your boss when you provided proof that you were underpaid, ask yourself: “Why is my manager offering me a raise now that I’m resigning?” Most likely, the answer is not because you’ve suddenly become a more valuable employee. It’s because your manager doesn’t want to deal with the work disruption of your departure.

You took the time to identify your reasons for leaving. You worked to fix all the issues that were within your control. There were issues that weren’t fixable and these were your deal-breakers. Because you couldn’t change the deal-breakers, you found a new job that was a better match to your career goals and aspirations.

Don’t let your ego or feeling flattered that you’re being offered more money cloud your judgment or cause you to make a poor decision. You already did your homework, so feel secure about the process you went through to seek a different job.

If you begin to second-guess your acceptance of the new job and consider agreeing to your manager’s counteroffer, think about what else would change if you stayed (besides receiving more money). Will those deal-breaker issues somehow magically disappear if you accept the counteroffer? Nope.

So look your boss in the eyes, smile nicely, and say, “No, thank you” to that counteroffer.

Lisa Quast is a certified executive coach, and the author of the book Secrets of a Hiring Manager Turned Career Coach. Email her at lquast@careerwomaninc.com.