Looking for work is a stressful process in which employers have all the power, but it's important that job seekers don't allow their frustration to turn to anger.

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Q: I am sick and tired of being abused by interviewers who are neither courteous, respectful nor kind. Many of them never look at my resume until I arrive, then proceed to inform me that the job requires some skill which I don’t even possess. I have been stared at to the point of discomfort, told that my past jobs were inadequate and advised to pursue a different line of work.

I have now started shutting down this negativity as soon as it occurs. When a hiring manager or human resources representative treats me rudely, I immediately let them know that I am blacklisting them. Employers looking for their next victim had better watch out, because I will no longer be anyone’s punching bag.

A: Many people can undoubtedly identify with your annoyance and exasperation. By definition, job-seeking is a highly frustrating process in which employers have all the power. Applicants not only feel completely out of control, but also experience constant rejection until someone finally hires them.

Unfortunately, however, the real problem occurs when frustration grows into outright anger. Conveying these negative feelings during the interview process inevitably creates a self-fulfilling prophecy — that is, applicants who are angry about being rejected start getting rejected because they seem angry.

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The challenge for job seekers, therefore, is to develop some effective strategies for managing stress. Otherwise, they may engage in self-defeating behaviors simply to make themselves feel better. In your case, for example, confronting rude interviewers might be emotionally rewarding, but it will kill your chances of becoming employed.

To have any hope of ending this unwelcome job search, you will need to find another outlet for your angry feelings. Then, when talking with interviewers, you must put on your “game face” and present yourself as the nice, friendly person that everyone loves to hire.

Submit questions to Marie G. McIntyre at yourofficecoach.com.