Job loss, even if you saw it coming, is a blow. You will feel emotional, there's no two ways about it. Here are some tips for what to expect and how to handle it.

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Job loss, even if you saw it coming, is a blow. You will feel emotional, there’s no two ways about it. Here are some tips for what to expect and how to handle it.

**Don’t be ashamed.** If there’s one thing the Great Recession taught us, it’s that losing your job is nothing to be ashamed of. It can happen to anyone, at any time.

**Don’t burn your bridges.** Feel like shooting off an angry email to your former boss/co-workers? It will feel good only for a moment — and then it will haunt you forever. Same goes for Facebook and Twitter pity parties. Be a mensch; take the high road.

**Don’t splurge.** Those new shoes or that flat-screen TV may comfort you — even thrill you — but, like the angry rant, the good feeling wears off fast. And then a little of your cushion is gone.

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**Don’t tap into your retirement savings.** Make every effort to resist dipping into your nest egg. If you do, it should be your last resort. Your first resort: Cut expenses. Second resort: Find a temp job. Third resort: Move to a cheaper place or get a roommate.

**Don’t try to go it alone.** Getting through a job loss, like other life challenges, takes a village. Join a support group, take a class, get together regularly with people in similar circumstances.

**Don’t make life-changing decisions.** Now is not a good time to move to a new state, leave your spouse, buy a house or shave your head.

**Don’t let yourself get lazy.** You’re unemployed, so you should get to sleep till noon, right? Um, wrong. Take steps toward finding work that very first day.

**Don’t feel bad about filing for unemployment.** It exists for a reason.

**Don’t drop your health insurance.** Yes, it is expensive. But some things you just can’t skimp on.

**Don’t neglect your body.** You may not feel like exercising. Potato chips for breakfast may seem like a good idea, but keeping fit will make you feel and look better.

**Don’t despair.** (Hey, that’s 11! But this one is important.) Most lives involve multiple setbacks. People get over them and move on — and you can, too.

Karen Burns is the author of The Amazing Adventures of Working Girl: Real-Life Career Advice You Can Actually Use. Email her at wg@karenburnsworkinggirl.com.