Former Olympia resident Toren Volkmann started drinking at age 14, binged through college and checked himself into rehab at 24. Despite the stereotype of...
Former Olympia resident Toren Volkmann started drinking at age 14, binged through college and checked himself into rehab at 24.
Despite the stereotype of the world-weary, middle-age drunk, alcohol dependence often starts not in adulthood, but in adolescence.
“Youth have a much higher chance of addiction if they start drinking at a young age,” said Toren’s mother, Chris. “Toren is a real good example of that.”
Together they wrote a new book, “From Binge to Blackout: A Mother and Son Struggle with Teen Drinking.”
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Nearly half of people who suffered from alcohol dependence at some point in their life could have been diagnosed before age 21; two-thirds became dependent before age 25, said Ralph Hingson, director of epidemiology and prevention research at the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. His study of 4,778 people was published this month in Pediatrics.
“Prevention becomes all the more important,” said Hingson, a professor at the Boston University School of Public Health.
Even as teen drinking continues to decline, it is still too high, and researchers keep finding more bad news. It’s not like there weren’t enough negatives already, with underage drinking long associated with a host of dangers, from car accidents to unprotected sex to general troublemaking. Now research also links it to ongoing health problems and even brain damage.
Keeping on top of things
For parents of teens
Keep track of alcohol in your home. Be around for parties or teen gatherings; stick a head in occasionally. In a recent survey, nearly half of 17-year-olds said they attend parties where teens drink or use drugs while parents are home.
Connect with other parents. Set group rules so no one is the bad guy. It also lets you figure out which parents tend to be more lax about supervision.
Know teens’ plans. Explain that you keep tabs because you care about their safety.
Set clear expectations. Some possible family rules: No alcohol until 21. Older siblings will not provide booze to younger ones. Call for a ride if needed.
Consequences should “sting.” Be consistent, but don’t punish so harshly that it becomes a barrier to a good relationship and positive communication.
Encourage healthy friendships. Teens are more likely to drink if their friends do. Invite friends over so you get to know them; keep kids busy.
Talk about family history. “People try to hide it if a family member abused drugs or alcohol,” said Chris Volkmann, co-author of “From Binge to Blackout.” “It’s embarrassing and painful. But kids deserve a chance to know they have a higher risk of developing a problem.”
For parents of college students
Ask about a university’s drug and alcohol policies. Parents often assume universities will notify them if students get in trouble with alcohol or drugs. But since many college students are legal adults, some schools don’t.
Talk about drinking games. About half of college students report playing drinking games. Studies link games with excessive alcohol consumption; students drink quickly, with social pressure to drink more. They’re also associated with hangovers and fights.
Discuss consumption. By college, parents can assume most students will drink at some point. So offer tips on how to drink safely — and how to know when to stop. “If students consider a 40-ounce malt liquor ‘one drink,’ you’ve got lots to talk about,” Volkmann said.
Source: National Institutes of Health (pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/
The still-developing adolescent brain “may be uniquely sensitive to alcohol’s effects,” noted another recent study in Alcohol Research & Health.
When researchers compared the effects of a four-day alcohol binge on the brains of adolescent and adult rats, they found “significant brain damage” in both. But it affected more parts of the adolescent brain, areas that weren’t damaged in the adult rats, according to The Bowles Center for Alcohol Studies.
The younger children are when they first imbibe, the more risks they face. A quarter of high-school students had their first drink before age 13, according to the 2005 Youth Risk Behavior Survey.
A 2005 survey found drinking among high-school seniors was at its lowest level since tracking began 20 years ago. Even so, nearly half had consumed alcohol in the prior month.
“Most parents consider alcohol benign,” said Toren. “It’s not being talked about to the extent it should or could be.”
That might change: Their book, published in August by Penguin Group, has garnered national attention from People magazine, CBS Evening News and The New York Times. It’s an updated version of their 2004 self-published book, “Our Drink.”
In alternating chapters, the two share their experiences and reactions as Toren sought treatment for alcoholism. In high school and then college, he frequently drank so much he blacked out. Despite getting kicked off sports teams and coming home falling-down drunk, his mom confesses, “We missed all the signs.” They punished him but, to Chris’ lasting regret, didn’t seek professional counseling.
Even if parents do catch a teen, most “have no idea of the extent of it — how many times [teens] are doing it and not getting caught,” said Toren, now 27 and living in San Diego.
Only one in five parents believes alcohol or marijuana is usually available at parties their teens attend, according to The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse’s annual survey, released last month. But half of teen partygoers say illegal substances are readily at hand. Twice as many teens as parents (27 vs. 12 percent) cite drugs as their greatest concern.
Many parents are astounded to learn how much some students consume, Chris said.
In Washington, 1 in 10 eighth-grade students admitted binge drinking (generally defined as five drinks in one sitting) in the previous two weeks, according to the 2004 Healthy Youth Survey of 30,000 students. That percentage jumped to nearly 1 in 5 for sophomores and 1 in 4 for seniors.
In college, some young adults pass the five-drink threshold two or even three times in an evening.
“Extreme drinking almost becomes like a sport to kids,” Toren said. “They try to act the craziest and do the funniest stuff. It’s never seen as something that could lead to something bad.”
Stephanie Dunnewind: firstname.lastname@example.org or 206-464-2091.