Q. I have a co-worker who says she's psychic. She's fond of haughtily walking around the office making various predictions of doom. None of her "predictions"...

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Q. I have a co-worker who says she’s psychic. She’s fond of haughtily walking around the office making various predictions of doom. None of her “predictions” has ever come true. Aren’t people who claim they’re psychic crazy people on power trips?

A. Since none of your co-worker’s predictions has been validated by reality, it’s unlikely she possesses a direct link to the CEO of the universe.

You’re correct that sometimes emotionally unstable people who feel worthless will seek attention by claiming to possess “special” powers. You can spot these folks because they talk loudly about their amazing talent, usually scare or flatter you, and are never humble.

However, in coaching hundreds of executives over the last 30 years, I’ve been astonished to discover how many successful people quietly rely on their “intuition” in their most important business decisions.

None of these people would publicly declare themselves to be psychic. They are also aware that they can misread their intuition or be wrong. They never force their intuition on others, even though people around them may be amazed at the accuracy of their gut instincts.

I cannot explain how these clients consistently and accurately seem to read the footprints of the future. I do know these clients are some of the best adjusted and most humble individuals I’ve met.

Loyal readers of this column know I’m a huge fan of paying attention in work and life. When it comes to discerning whether a co-worker’s prediction is psycho or psychic, carefully evaluate your experience of your co-worker. Intuition is a real and invaluable asset in your work life, but people who genuinely possess uncanny foresight usually have the following traits:

• Humility.

• No claim to “special” powers.

• Awareness of their fallibility.

• Emotional stability and maturity.

• A track record of accuracy.

Also be aware that we all have the potential wiring for intuition. The more we use it, the better our instincts become. If anyone, anywhere, tells you anything that your own intuition denies, trust yourself — not the person who claims the gift of precognition.

So, next time a co-worker tells you not to get on that plane, make sure you consider the source and check in with your own gut instincts. There’s no psychic hotline on the planet that should suspend your own good judgment.

The last word(s)

Q. My co-worker likes to spend Monday morning bragging about his romantic conquests. Is there any way to get him to stop his locker-room reviews without getting into a fight?

A. Yes, tell him you’re easily embarrassed and that you know he wouldn’t purposely embarrass you. Then ask him to review his weekends out of your earshot.

Daneen Skube, Ph.D., is an executive coach, trainer, therapist, speaker and author of “Interpersonal Edge: Breakthrough Tools for Talking to Anyone, Anywhere, About Anything” (Hay House, 2006). She can be reached at 1420 N.W. Gilman Blvd., No. 2845, Issaquah, WA 98027-7001; by e-mail at interpersonaledge@comcast.net; or at www.interpersonaledge.com. Sorry, no personal replies. To read other Daneen Skube columns, go to www.seattletimes.com/daneenskube