Is he a terrible people reader? Or was his ex-girlfriend a bad communicator?
Wife No. 1 should reconsider attending the wedding if there’s even the slightest risk of a scoff or an eye-roll, says Carolyn Hax.
Ultimately deciding not to have a baby is a huge loss for the partner who wanted to be a parent. Understand that and be sensitive.
What should she say the next time this happens?
He’s very involved with older two but she’s STILL doing 99.99 percent of the work for their two younger children.
Letting kids see your grief also allows them to see you heal.
They’re going on a hiking/road trip together; enjoy that will-we-won’t-we tension and get to know her.
Should they start a scholarship and then pull some strings to make sure she gets it?
When neutral deflections don’t work, it’s time to set firmer boundaries.
You can tell her you’re scared but you can’t tell grown-ups how to live their lives.